Apologies

Random thought:

So am I the only person in the world who thinks the whole apology process is ass backwards?

Just take a second and bear with me.

Let's say I run over your foot with my car:


You: OWWWWWWWWWWWW !!!!
Me: Oh, dude! I'm SO sorry!
You: OWWWWWWW !!!!! MY FOOOT!
Me: Oh, my God! I dunno what happened! Lemme call 991 or something!
You: OWWWWWWWWWWWW !!!!

Fast forward to the next morning when you're in bed with your foot in a cast or something:

Me: So how is it?
You: Well, I had my first surgery last night. And I've got a soft cast on. They're gonna take a look at it again in a few days and decide what they're gonna do from there. They said something about putting pins in.
Me: Like I said. I'm SO sorry. I have no idea what happened.
You: Well, it was an accident. Don't worry about it.
Me: Thanks. Well, I've got to go and meet some people at the park. Let me know if you need ANYTHING.

And while that's terribly condensed and I'm being kind of a punk, the example illustrates my point:
-Person A commits some kind of "offense"
-Person B is hurt
-Person A apologizes
-Person B has to forgive Person A or be branded a punk
-Person A, now forgiven, goes on to do whatever he wants
-Person B is left to deal with the aftermath


Now does that seem right to you?
Person A fucks up and then says "I'm sorry" and walks.
Person B is hurt and then has to forgive, and then is left holding the bag.


And let's not even get into empty apologies.


So, in that light, I would think that it makes more sense for it to work this way:
Person A (the offender) shouldn't generally offer an apology until he's been forgiven by Person B (the victim).

That way, Person B can take his time and offer an apology in his own time, and Person A is maybe left holding onto the feeling of responsibility until such time as Person B decides to left him off the hook. The whole situation lasts the same length for each person, and everyone is spared the empty apology / grudging forgiveness ordeal.



I mean, sure, you're still left with pins in your foot, but at least I'm left feeling a little worse about it for a while. If I'm gonna feel bad about it at all.

I'm back

I don't plan on going anywhere until late September, so I should be back to doing this relatively regularly at some point in the near future.

'Course, I've said that before, so we'll see how that goes.

But thus far this summer, not much has gone on:

The Kings are an ongoing saga, giving me good solid highs and questionable lows.

The summer movie season has been pretty slack. Iron man was pretty damn good, and Indy is more and more disappointing upon reflection. Batman holds tremendous promise, though and I want to see Wanted 'cause that just looks like a decent distraction. And not 'cause of Angelina Jolie 'cause I don't find her terribly attractive.

Mexico was fun, if not because of the great company and great location, then because I wasn't sick at any point and had no problems getting back over the border.

And I just saw my first four episodes of Deadwood this weekend. I'd always heard good things and never had a reason to doubt them, but it was a quality show and I'm looking forward to finally seeing it.

So, if anything else comes up, I'll let you know. The next big things on my radar at this point are Batman and Frozen Fury in September. And possibly a trip (or two) up to the Bay Area at some point. And maybe a trip to DC and Boston in October or so.


Other than that, I'll be around.